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In a nutshell, I'm fascinated by psychology, the power of thought, the beauty of nature and its array of colors. I believe in living truthfully, compassionately, and non-judgmentally.

Late in life I was diagnosed with ADHD, after my twin grandsons were diagnosed at the age of 10. Going through this with them brought back nightmares of my own childhood. The twins were constantly in trouble at school (so was I). I was lucky enough to have these amazing young men live with me for 4 years and in order to help them succeed I needed to know everything possible about ADHD. When they went back to live with Mom for high school, they were changed kids, much better prepared, and I was delighted to be part of their progress.

An ADHD Coach specializes in partnering with people that are interested in taking action in some area of their lives. It could be coaching adults or children or men or women. ADHD Coaches may choose to further specialize in their practices, such as business, health, life style. The choices go on and on.

While Training as an ADHD Coach the student is required to do many hours of specialized training pertaining to the medical condition, ADHD, which stands for: Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. This special training is over and above the regular coach training that all coaches usually receive.

ADHD coaches are different because they have a clear understanding of how ADHD influences behavior in people’s lives. There are numerous consistencies in ADHD which an ADHD specialist will appreciate and understand. There is a focus on the client’s strength and natural talents in coaching. We learn valuable tools, strategies and methods for supporting client’s in creating change in their lives. Empowerment is the answer!

In my training, I've specifically learned about executive functioning, neuroscience and how the ADHD brain works. How it works is different for everyone and this understanding is at the core of coaching an ADHD client. ADHD Coaches have a deeper understanding of the role of medications and in general how medications work. While medication is not necessarily right for everyone, there are many cases where it can make a huge difference to the struggle on a day-to-day basis.

ADHD specialists recognize distraction, restlessness, boredom, fidgeting and overwhelm and understand these traits can be ADHD related. Clients may or may not be well educated about their ADHD and what it means to them. An ADHD Coach will try to foster an increased awareness in the symptoms that may be sabotaging a client’s success. Be that success at school, at home or in relationships. Pretty much any aspect of their life can be involved. It may be pertaining to health, eating, weight that the client has the most challenges. Once clients understand more about themselves with ADHD, they can then make better decisions about the appropriate actions to take.

While an ADHD Coach will be empathetic, the coach is far more likely to understand how the client thinks and acknowledge the difficulties and struggles they face. For this client, the focus will very definitely be around the strengths that the ADHD person has and positive action.

The ADHD Coach will validate, understand and acknowledge the client’s situational reality. People that have ADHD repeatedly identify the fact that their Coach actually “gets it”, as one of the most important aspects of having a coach.

  • better understand their ADHD challenges
  • feel less misunderstood.
  • Feel less frustration.
  • More self esteem.
  • Feel more hopeful
  • Endure less struggle.
  • Be supported and encouraged to take action.
  • Become accountable to themselves.
  • Challenge old habits and thinking patterns.
  • Clients learn they are not alone.
  • Go from where you are now to where you want to be
  • Determine what you want, why you want it and how to get it
  • Overcome obstacles, low confidence and insecurities
  • Explore and evaluate options
  • Gain strategies and techniques to reach goals faster

For more information on coaching for ADHD please contact us here

The International Federation of Coaching’s (ICF) definition of coaching is as follows:

“ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaches honor the client as the expert in his or her life and work and believe every client is creative, resourceful and whole.”

Standing on this foundation, the coach’s responsibility is to:

  • Discover, clarify, and align with what the client wants to achieve
  • Encourage client self-discovery
  • Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies.
  • Hold the client responsible and accountable.

What Are Your Expectations?

Expectations enter into everything we do and into every relationship we have. What do I expect from my children, my husband, my friends? It’s complicated for sure, because we all have various ways we determine the answer to this question. No two ways of deciding may be the same.

When your’s and my expectations don’t match, we call it crossed-expectations. This is a common source of problems in marriages and relationships. Let’s be clear. I consider relationships to encompass far more than just love relationships - regardless of the participants. There are however, many other types of relationships. Child to parent, siblings, school mates, work mates, and on it goes. Sometimes relationships will correspond to the title of the different hats we wear. Mom, dad, sister, brother, teacher or mayor. To some extent these titles may preclude certain expectations we have of each other. Sometimes unknowingly.

What are the problems with crossed-expectations?

One way of responding to this question is to look at the expectations we set of ourselves. We expect to deliver excellence and when we do, we avoid disappointment. If we don’t though, chances are we’d be disappointed in ourselves. Our self-image may suffer enormously and our confidence will be impacted. Others may be disappointed in us and if we consistently mess up, they will lose confidence in our ability to do the job.

Additionally, what are our expectations of others? How do we determine that they are accurate and totally rational? Understanding that disappointment results from not having explicit expectations, leads us to set a goal of determining exactly what others can expect from us at the beginning. Not discussing what we didn’t achieve at the end of the chore. I see this a lot when parents ask their children to tidy up. The parent has an outcome in mind. A visual picture if you will of what a tidied up room looks like. So does the child. There are miles between the two visions. So how to close the gap?

Explaining to a child that tidying a room involves the following steps can eliminate some of the disappointment:

  • pick up all your laundry and put it in the laundry room.
  • make your bed.
  • dust all the surfaces of your furniture.
  • vacuum the floor thoroughly. (in other words everywhere, including under the bed)

So the child follows the outline. Parents with perfectionism in their personalities should beware that we must encourage our children and praise what has been done correctly. Sometimes going over all that is incorrect is counter productive. A good parent knows this.

So expectations are set and reset. The goal always is to reduce the gap between the results and the expectation.

SECTION 1 - WHAT DO WE DO WITH YOUR INFORMATION?

When you purchase something from our store, as part of the buying and selling process, we collect the personal information you give us such as your name, address and email address.

When you browse our store, we also automatically receive your computer’s internet protocol (IP) address in order to provide us with information that helps us learn about your browser and operating system.

Email marketing (if applicable): With your permission, we may send you emails about our store, new products and other updates.

SECTION 2 - CONSENT

How do you get my consent?

When you provide us with personal information to complete a transaction, verify your credit card, place an order, arrange for a delivery or return a purchase, we imply that you consent to our collecting it and using it for that specific reason only.

If we ask for your personal information for a secondary reason, like marketing, we will either ask you directly for your expressed consent, or provide you with an opportunity to say no.

How do I withdraw my consent?

If after you opt-in, you change your mind, you may withdraw your consent for us to contact you, for the continued collection, use or disclosure of your information, at anytime, by contacting us at [email protected] or mailing us at: Minditude Institute 26 Winter Road, Warkworth, ON, K0K3K0, Canada

SECTION 3 - DISCLOSURE

We may disclose your personal information if we are required by law to do so or if you violate our Terms of Service.

SECTION 4 - SHOPIFY

Our store is hosted on Shopify Inc. They provide us with the online e-commerce platform that allows us to sell our products and services to you.

Your data is stored through Shopify���s data storage, databases and the general Shopify application. They store your data on a secure server behind a firewall.

Payment:

If you choose a direct payment gateway to complete your purchase, then Shopify stores your credit card data. It is encrypted through the Payment Card Industry Data Security Standard (PCI-DSS). Your purchase transaction data is stored only as long as is necessary to complete your purchase transaction. After that is complete, your purchase transaction information is deleted.

All direct payment gateways adhere to the standards set by PCI-DSS as managed by the PCI Security Standards Council, which is a joint effort of brands like Visa, MasterCard, American Express and Discover.

PCI-DSS requirements help ensure the secure handling of credit card information by our store and its service providers.

For more insight, you may also want to read Shopify’s Terms of Service here or Privacy Statement here.

SECTION 5 - THIRD-PARTY SERVICES

In general, the third-party providers used by us will only collect, use and disclose your information to the extent necessary to allow them to perform the services they provide to us.

However, certain third-party service providers, such as payment gateways and other payment transaction processors, have their own privacy policies in respect to the information we are required to provide to them for your purchase-related transactions.

For these providers, we recommend that you read their privacy policies so you can understand the manner in which your personal information will be handled by these providers.

In particular, remember that certain providers may be located in or have facilities that are located in a different jurisdiction than either you or us. So if you elect to proceed with a transaction that involves the services of a third-party service provider, then your information may become subject to the laws of the jurisdiction(s) in which that service provider or its facilities are located.

As an example, if you are located in Canada and your transaction is processed by a payment gateway located in the United States, then your personal information used in completing that transaction may be subject to disclosure under United States legislation, including the Patriot Act.

Once you leave our store’s website or are redirected to a third-party website or application, you are no longer governed by this Privacy Policy or our website’s Terms of Service.

Links

When you click on links on our store, they may direct you away from our site. We are not responsible for the privacy practices of other sites and encourage you to read their privacy statements.

SECTION 6 - SECURITY

To protect your personal information, we take reasonable precautions and follow industry best practices to make sure it is not inappropriately lost, misused, accessed, disclosed, altered or destroyed.

If you provide us with your credit card information, the information is encrypted using secure socket layer technology (SSL) and stored with a AES-256 encryption. Although no method of transmission over the Internet or electronic storage is 100% secure, we follow all PCI-DSS requirements and implement additional generally accepted industry standards.

COOKIES

Here is a list of cookies that we use. We’ve listed them here so you can choose if you want to opt-out of cookies or not.

_session_id, unique token, sessional, Allows Shopify to store information about your session (referrer, landing page, etc).

_shopify_visit, no data held, Persistent for 30 minutes from the last visit, Used by our website provider’s internal stats tracker to record the number of visits

_shopify_uniq, no data held, expires midnight (relative to the visitor) of the next day, Counts the number of visits to a store by a single customer.

cart, unique token, persistent for 2 weeks, Stores information about the contents of your cart.

_secure_session_id, unique token, sessional

storefront_digest, unique token, indefinite If the shop has a password, this is used to determine if the current visitor has access.

SECTION 7 - AGE OF CONSENT

By using this site, you represent that you are at least the age of majority in your state or province of residence, or that you are the age of majority in your state or province of residence and you have given us your consent to allow any of your minor dependents to use this site.

SECTION 8 - CHANGES TO THIS PRIVACY POLICY

We reserve the right to modify this privacy policy at any time, so please review it frequently. Changes and clarifications will take effect immediately upon their posting on the website. If we make material changes to this policy, we will notify you here that it has been updated, so that you are aware of what information we collect, how we use it, and under what circumstances, if any, we use and/or disclose it.

If our store is acquired or merged with another company, your information may be transferred to the new owners so that we may continue to sell products to you.

QUESTIONS AND CONTACT INFORMATION

If you would like to: access, correct, amend or delete any personal information we have about you, register a complaint, or simply want more information contact our Privacy Compliance Officer at [email protected] or by mail at Minditude Institute

[Re: Privacy Compliance Officer]

[26 Winter Road, Warkworth, ON, K0K3K0, Canada]

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